Dear Stephanie in 1996:
It’s been 20 years since you’ve graduated high school; so, I figured I’d give you a little advice now that I’ve time to reflect.
First, your parents are not wrong, about anything. I know this may come as a complete shock to you, but it’s true. I promise you that someday you will see it this way, just wait it out. Remember that when Mom tells you something that you don’t want to hear, even though it’s rough, she’s right. Except for with the charming red head you’ll meet at Quassy, she’s wrong about him; he’s a horses rear end and will cause more trouble than he will ever be worth.
Next, Boys suck, college is hard and takes much more focus than you are used to; but, you WILL get through it and be an awesome teacher. Don’t complain about the amount of work you’ll have to do in college, because teaching college has always been your dream, and you will get there (and at a relatively young age). In regards to college, and boys, on your first day, you’ll meet a boy and fall head over heals in love. Even though he breaks your heart (in a million pieces), it’s all worth it because he made you who you are today.
Speaking of the person you are today, I think you need to be proud of yourself. Even when you don’t feel much like you’ve accomplished anything, remember that you did. You have an awesome job and a fairly successful writing career. You’re also a really good person: you never take yourself too seriously (though you take your jobs seriously), you would give someone the shirt off of your back if they needed it, and you have a great sense of humor. Someday, you’ll find the right person, you just have to believe that with all of your heart.
Lastly, never forget that it’s OK to be nerdy. Regardless of what anyone ever says, you’re smart and talented; that’s something to be proud of!
Stephanie in 2016